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Shadows. What are they? What are yours? 

Shadows are the often-unconscious parts of ourselves, our inner parts, that yearn for expression in the physical world. They are often thought of as negative traits. As the ghosts of a past state-of-being that haunt the basement of our inner complex and rattle the window panes, slam doors loudly and explode our kitchen cupboards in an effort to scare you.

But, in reality they should be thought of more like ‘Casper the friendly ghost’.  Rather than being...

For reasons I don’t pretend to understand societal, or more the point, institutional attitudes around sex have meant that there is simply so much we don’t understand about it. Like where our myriad and sometimes unusual fantasies and desires stem from? Is the existence of a particular desire that may sit outside of the mainstream capacity to acknowledge it, unhealthy or valid? How many different forms of orgasm are there? Anecdotally people report the ability to have a throat orgasm which includ...

I was in a bar in San Francisco once after attending a sexuality workshop when the woman I had just met and was talking to asked what I was doing in her country (in a nice way). In describing the workshop I had attended I used the phrase ‘conscious sexuality’ retreat. I didn’t think too much of the conversation, but a little while into the night, I started signalling an interest in her, and seeing this, she acted surprised I had an attraction for her stating that she thought I was gay. Surprised...