About

First Belief

Great sex & intimacy is our birth-right, is healing, and has the capacity to change the world for the better

Second Belief

Sexuality is a gateway to transformational growth and personal development when approached with integrity

Third Belief

Vitality or life force-energy is linked or channelled through sexual energy

what do I do?

My area of interest is as a Sexual Awakening Mentor in support to women.

What does sexual awakening mean to me? It is the unwinding of conditioning that keeps us limited in our sexual expression.

This could be suppression felt by religious, cultural, social, or family expectations. Or the stories we tell ourselves that limit us. This could be embodying the tools and techniques to choose better partners or more fulfilling forms of intimacy.

It is not about quantity per se, but choosing and creating the conditions for quality intimacy which then radiates out into our every day life.

my background

Born and raised in Australia, my journey early in life was impacted by the void left by the departure of my father from the family unit. Not having a consistent male role-model and internalising a feeling of abandonment affected my general sense of self-worth, lovability, and the way I related to sexuality and women by unconsciously adopting an avoidant attachment style.

As an adult, at age 19 I enlisted in the Australian army and deployed overseas as part of a United Nations peacekeeping mission, returning home with PTSD.

Two years after my return home I had a fateful meeting that set in motion my interest in sexuality and working within this field. I met a woman who exposed me to BDSM for the first time in the form of her caning me across the back of the thighs. Within three strikes I collapsed on the floor in a weeping, sobbing mess...

It wasn't the pain so much as a somatic release of stored emotions from PTSD. In other words, stored trauma in the body. It was a cathartic experience which helped me see the therapeutic link to sexuality. It led me down a path of exploration and inquiry of different dynamics within sexuality. The good, the bad, and the positively transformational!

Over the years I studied and participated in various modalities, including psychological counselling, neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), hypnotherapy, somatic therapy, spiritual inquiry, physical fitness, energy and body work, breath-work, neuro-feedback treatment, and more. It is my lived experiences and professional qualifications that I apply in my work as a Sexual Awakening Mentor.

I am a certified Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) practitioner, Breath-work facilitator, and Sensual Holistic Massage practitioner, including de-armouring or emotional release techniques. I offer virtual online mentoring to women and group online workshops for women and men.

My style

Through a safe masculine presence, I help create a grounded and structured framework to hold the feminine in her own process. Whilst structured, it is not rigid, and plenty of room is left for adaptation and flow to suit you as the already empowered individual.

This is a tailored approach using various tools that pull at the threads of conditioning and your belief systems. Sessions are deep dive experiences lasting up to two hours to get to the heart of how to obtain what it is you desire.

I act as a guide-post for women wanting to 'own' their sexuality, without being reactive to perceptions of shame and judgement that may accompany it. To support women to be sovereign in their bodies. To create awareness of the vast and expansive layers of intimacy. To feel more juicy, more sexy, more intimacy, more desire, more pleasure, more orgasms, fuller orgasms, abundant sensuality with integrity, and more overall vitality, vibrancy and magnetism, that act as an attractive force for fulfilling relationships.

I have been asked why I choose to focus on women. I believe that the feminine being supported by a masculine presence, held with integrity, can be a very healing process, particularly for those who may have good reason to distrust the masculine. And, due to the in-depth nature of our sessions, I choose to focus on the particular needs of women rather than dilute my offerings.

Elle

"...how does a woman brought up in a shame infused environment (hyper religious community) tackle such a project (exploring sexuality)? Slowly, consciously, within a safe, confident container held by a healthy masculine practitioner has been a large part of my answer...

Over the past year of working with Shahan, ...I have pieced together an entirely new, empowered sense of my sexuality that embraces all parts of my expression, be that dark and confusing, or light and spiritual...

I was led to delve into desires previously held secret and asked to express their depths thru creative “tasks” which often challenged my view on shame itself and rewrote their origins into something bold, unique, and beautiful.

In person BDSM scenes were approached with intention. Co-created with boundaries and open communication to enact a symbolic death of an archetype that was no longer serving me...

...knowing I have autonomy, power, and shame free joy in inhabiting my sexuality has been a game changer. I am alive in my Eros and a large part of that growth has been due to my work with Shahan. I am eternally grateful."